So guys I know I haven't posted in a while, but my eighteenth birthday was a few days ago and I was celebrating. Plus I have midterms in a couple weeks, so I have been studying my brains out. Anyways, last night I saw an old friend of mine and it got me thinking about friendship and how certain people just define you, so let's take another walk through my crooked psyche and find what we can find. Shall we?
So there's this girl, let's call her... Tally. Now Tally and I have been friends for three years, but it feels more like 30. She's one year older than me. So she plays college basketball this year for a D1 school. She is the most wonderful person ever. I love her. She is my best friend. But her school is far away, well not that far away. She's about 4-6 hours away (depending on traffic). But that is just too far away. I miss her so much. So this week I saw her.
I went to her basketball game, but here's the thing....she's been red-shirtted for the season. that basically means that she can't play this year, but that she still goes to every game and practice. My Dad and I were driving to the game and my Dad asks:
"So what position does she play?"
(first off: I couldn't tell you even if she was playing, I'm a writer, not a sports enthusiast).
So I say:
"Oh! She doesn't actually play. She's been red-shirtted."
"You mean we're paying 8 bucks a piece to watch her sit on a bench for two hours?"
"No... we're paying 8 bucks a piece to watch her sit in a chair for two hours."
P.S. There are no physical benches at the local college, the teams sit in chairs on the floor. My father didn't find this as funny as I did. And the game was only about an hour.
We went to the game and out of the roughly 60 fans in the events center about 20 of us were there for Tally...who was on the opposing team.... not even playing. So the end of the game came and Tally was able to break away from her team for a few minutes. I got to give her a hug and that was all I needed.
Let me explain something to you: I have very few friends. Tally is more than a friend, she is my sister (not biologically, but in that sense of we are so close that we might as well be). The friends that I have are, for the most part, nice. But I'm sure everyone out there on the internet knows what I'm talking about when I say Tally is my best friend. I could have a thousand friends, a million. And none of them would mean as much to me as Tally does.
I think that's important. to have at least one person that you really can trust. I will say that I have had one boyfriend my entire life. I mention this because I can honestly say that I did not love him. And any moment that i thought I might love him, it was puppy love. Nothing more than a feeling of meaning something to someone, that was my relationship. That is my relationship with pretty much everybody. But with Tally, i really love her. Not in the romantic way, more in the "if you get murdered I will seriously miss your funeral because I will be in jail for killing the bastard" kind of way. That is true friendship.
